It all starts with a strong family foundation: When the children are close to their parents, they get all the support they need to get through the toughest times. Have family rituals like dinner together, weekly board game sessions, and hiking trips. The idea is to make the family time fun and not a nagging and criticism session they dread.
Let go of their minor flaws: Yes they will leave their room messy, skip some classes, oversleep at times, you did it too!! Let it go. By ignoring these things you will be in a better position to give your opinion when it comes to their drinking habits, their peers and relationships. Also by praising them for little things like babysitting a younger sibling or getting groceries, you have scope to correct them when needed without sounding bossy all the time.
Have open discussions: Do not pry. Talk about general things, from weather to politics and more. Ask them what is going on in their lives, tell them a little about yours. Also tell them about your teenage years, how it was difficult for you as well, and mention a few embarrassing incidents. It will make them realize that they’re not alone in this.
Respect boundaries: In spite of you trying your best there will be times when they will be closer to their friends or choose them over you for their next shopping trip. Let it go, you do not need to know every single detail from their crushes to what they ate on their night out. And besides, the freedom you give them will earn you brownie points.
Keep your calm during arguments: It is a very well known fact that nothing comes out of a heated discussion. It is simply a waste of time and energy, and undue stress on relationships. When your teen is in a bad mood, listen up, think through it and give your opinion (or in some cases verdict) after they have taken the time to cool down.
Cheer up: It may seem difficult, but they aren’t going to stay teens forever, and nor is this phase. Happy parenting!!
